By: Alexey Dombaev

In this article, we had the privilege of speaking with Irina Naidina, a highly respected clinical psychologist and leading expert in the emotional, social, and cognitive development of children with autism. Irina has 14 years of experience, is a certified expert and trainer in DIRFloortime, and is the founder of Mindful Relationship Coaching. Irina shared her valuable insights and inspiring experiences in creating and leading coaching groups for parents of children with autism. These groups offer crucial support and resources, profoundly impacting the lives of both parents and children.

Can you tell us how you came up with the idea of creating coaching groups for parents of children with autism?

This is a very challenging question because my first encounter with autism was within my own family. My child was born with vision problems, and at a certain age, he was diagnosed with autism. I went through the entire journey of despair and coping with it myself before becoming a clinical psychologist. Therefore, I always had a complex attitude towards how specialists communicate with parents. I sought an approach that not only addresses the needs of the children but also helps the parents, as a child never exists alone. A child is always a member of their family. It is impossible to work with a child for progress without working with the parents.

When I encountered the DIRFloortime approach, it provided solutions to many professional dead-ends. The core principle of this approach is that parents are full members of the team. The most effective approach is a team-based one, which includes the parents. This decision is mature and well-founded through years of work. Additionally, I am a certified group analyst and know that a group possesses its dynamics, strengths, and advantages over individual work.

What is the main goal you strive to achieve with these coaching groups?

The group has several goals. The first is to help parents establish relationships with their children, forming or restoring attachment. We need attachment for the formation of the child’s personality and their social-emotional and cognitive abilities. The second goal is emotional support for parents. We support parents in their self-esteem and help them see the results of their efforts. The third goal is creating a support group that continues to exist even after the coaching group ends. Informational support is also important, as parents share their knowledge and experiences.

What key topics and questions are usually discussed in your coaching groups?

The group discusses topics such as the child’s behavior, interactions with parents, problems at school or kindergarten, learning difficulties, and relationships with other children. We also talk about the child’s stereotypical interests and how to develop them. Group meetings begin with discussing how the week went, what’s new, and what concerns the parents the most. Then we watch videos of interactions with the child, analyze them, and discuss what can be improved. It’s important that each participant has the opportunity to express their opinion and receive support.

Can you share successful examples or stories from your coaching groups?

One of our group participants, Anna, couldn’t work for a long time due to an abusive relationship with her husband. During the group work, she found the strength to move to Spain and start a successful career as a photographer. Her child also moved with her and continues to develop. Another participant wrote a children’s book, and another parent, who couldn’t find a job for a long time, trained as a programmer and successfully works now. These examples show how working in coaching groups helps parents develop and find the strength for change.

What are the most common problems and challenges parents of children with autism face, and how do coaching groups help overcome them?

Parents often face antisocial behavior from their child, stereotypical interests, difficulties in communication and interaction, as well as health problems and daily skills. Coaching groups help by setting realistic goals and breaking down complex tasks into simpler steps. We teach parents to establish a two-way dialogue with the child, notice their signals, and respond appropriately. The exchange of experiences among parents and the expert opinion of the group leader are also important.

What role do emotional support and the exchange of experiences play among parents in your coaching groups?

Emotional support and the exchange of experiences play a key role. Parents can share their concerns and find support from those in similar situations. This helps them feel not alone and see that they are not alone in their struggles. The exchange of experiences allows them to find new strategies and approaches to raising and supporting their children.

What professional advice and recommendations do you give to parents in the coaching groups?

The first advice is to remain calm and engaged. We discuss how to relieve stress and find resources for calmness. It’s important to dedicate time to the child, even if it’s just 5 minutes a day. We also advise relying on their strengths and the child’s strengths, setting achievable goals, and celebrating small successes.

What methods and approaches do you recommend to parents to improve their interaction with their children?

I recommend the DIRFloortime approach, which places relationships at the center of the development process and considers parents as key figures. We also often use sensory integration, sports, dance, art therapy, and theater groups. It’s important to remember that the child is not just autism; they may have other issues that need to be considered.

What would you advise parents who are just starting their journey in supporting their children with autism and are considering joining a coaching group?

First and foremost, I want to say that you are not alone in your struggle. Many parents face the same difficulties and concerns. Joining a coaching group can give you not only knowledge and practical skills but also powerful emotional support. Don’t be afraid to seek help and share your concerns. In the group, you will find understanding, support, and a lot of useful information that will help you and your child. Remember that your child is unique, and you can help them unlock their potential. 

Together, we can make this journey easier and more joyful.

Published By: Aize Perez