“The longest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.” Armed with this paradoxically simple yet profound epiphany, Onyx Hicks goes on to explain how many of today’s interpersonal issues stem from intra-personal ones. The author and activist expounds those principles in her book “Self-Love Club: Party of 1,” which has grown in renown and reception in recent times.
People might know Onyx best as a speaker and activist. Born in Portsmouth, VA, she lived most of her life in the Hamptons Roads region. She currently works as a VP of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People or NAACP and dedicates her life to fighting for equity. She produces her television show entitled “The Onyx Effect,” and uses her platform to empower others, fight injustice, and address pressing issues.
More recently, however, Onyx Hicks has worn the speaker and author’s hat, especially since her book became something of a phenomenon on social platforms. “Self-Love Club: Party of 1” came out on November 15, 2020, and has grown in popularity ever since. The book dives into important lessons that build the case for self-love, something that Onyx believes many people today lack and thus suffer extreme consequences.
“Self-love is the most selfish and selfless act of love that you will ever give,” shares Onyx. “If you never learn this act of love, you will never be whole. In this book, you will find the tools needed to reactivate and build one of the best relationships you can have with yourself.” The book came to life in the middle of the rising crises caused by the global Coronavirus pandemic and the growing racial tensions that re-ignited the “Black Lives Matter” movement. Through her book, Onyx bears an authentic display of unfiltered thoughts and struggles.
Onyx shares through the book about the critical role that self-love played during the roughest seasons of her life. “As an activist it was my self love that got me through being charged with felonies with a state Senator and seventeen others for merely standing up against oppression,” she shared. The activist and author recall the mental toll that rising pressures had on her and how the principles she shares in the book helped her persevere through the tensions and trials.
At one point, Onyx Hicks struggled to maintain her stance as an activist because of the amount she was giving out with very little replenishment coming back. As a result, she went through a season of burnout, feeling drained, incomplete, and, at times, even empty. The episode would lead to a mild stroke, which landed her on a hospital bed. It was at that moment that she realized the danger of neglecting oneself. She made a resolve to ensure that she had enough left when she would give a part of herself to her work and cause.
“Self-Love Club: Party of 1” bears an important message for all, especially in a time where people are coming out of quarantine and dealing with bouts of loneliness and depression. Onyx hopes that her book will serve as a light to all who need love today and that they would realize that that love could come from themselves.
Onyx Hicks continues to fight battles for the oppressed while also maintaining her cause of self-love and care. To check out her book and other endeavors, visit Onyx’ Amazon page and Instagram profile.
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